proxy: replace fsnotify with stat-poll watcher and add SIGHUP reload (#685)

The fsnotify-based config watcher does not work reliably when the config
file is bind-mounted into a Docker container as an individual file, and
mishandles k8s ConfigMap projections (atomically swapped symlinks).
Replace it with a small os.Stat-polling watcher and add SIGHUP as an
explicit reload signal.

- new proxy/configwatcher package: 2s os.Stat poller, follows symlinks,
  fires on mtime/size change and on missing -> present transitions
- SIGHUP triggers reload unconditionally (works without --watch-config)
  via the same ConfigFileChangedEvent pipeline so the UI sees identical
  state transitions
- watcher goroutine now exits cleanly on shutdown via a context
- drop github.com/fsnotify/fsnotify dependency

fixes #682

go.sum

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-github.com/fsnotify/fsnotify v1.9.0/go.mod h1:8jBTzvmWwFyi3Pb8djgCCO5IBqzKJ/Jwo8TRcHyHii0=
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